:: Hurt :: May 10, 2007Posted by Minci 先生 in Love and Relationship.
A breakup in a relationship happens because both parties are at fault. And both individuals get hurt regardless of who broke it off (unless manusia itu buaya lar). Even if one of them doesn’t talk about it or express themselves for everyone to see, it doesn’t mean that he/she is okay.
Therefore, it doesn’t help for other people to talk bad things behind him/her for that is the last thing he/she wants. Nor is it helpful for other people to spread stories about how I feel without properly interpreting the emo entries I wrote. Or how the breakup happened in the first place. Do not assume, please.
As painful as it is for me right now, I don’t think my ex should be excessively criminalized for his acts. He did what he think was right and appropriate at the time and if there’s a need to blame someone, perhaps I should take half of it for not trying hard enough to get by this dreadful event. I am just a woman heavily affected who has the means and tools to express my sadness more often. Blogging sets my emotions free because if I talk to people, they might get bored and just tell me to get over it.
While most people would see me as the greater victim trust me, he is a victim as well. He is hurt too. he is no robot but also a human being. I have my friends with me but sometimes I wonder if he has anybody to help him go through this? Perhaps, my faults would be more evident then if you were his companions.
Just so all of you know, part of my happiness is to know that he is happy in his life and successful at work. In addition, as much as I want him back I do not wish for it to happen for the wrong reasons. If we were not meant to be, then it will not be. Ever. Must I quote examples like Nicole Kidman/Tom Cruise, Rachel Bilson/Adam Brody, Angelina Jolie/Brad Pitt, Cameron Diaz/Justin Timberlake, Nurul/Ajai and Erra/Yusry?There’s no use pushing it into a direction that wouldn’t be fulfilling for both of us.
I admit. It is a difficult fact to accept but if that’s the fate I have to live with, I’d happily pack my bags and get on the next plane to a better destination.
Alex: “Why are you here helping me after what I did?”
Izzy : “Because… it’s what Jesus would freakin do!”
– Grey’s Anatomy –