:: A woman’s pearl of wisdom March 23, 2008Posted by Minci 先生 in Everyday Life.
“Who do you aspire to?”
If I ever get that question in say, an interview.. the top on my list would have to be Oprah Winfrey. I was and still am, awed by her philanthropist nature especially in the fight for liberating and empowering women. for there is truth in ‘The hand that rocks the cradle, rule the world’. Indeed, more women should know that they capable of being stronger, wiser and stroll the walk of life with more calibre than what they actually are.
I try reading the books that she reads and at anny chance I get, I’ll try to watch her talk show.
Over the past few days, one thought came to mind. A life wisdom I gathered from Oprah (obviously) but have had forgotten to apply to current life circumstances in the midst of this year’s academic stress, social conflict and teribbly freezing weather. A whirlwind that is there to stay until I build a damn good shelter to protect me or just have it ridden off.
On the particular show, Oprah had Suze Orman on her show. Further googling revealed that she’s a successful personal financial advisor. Suze was there to not only promote her book but also to give quick tips to women in the audience onto how to manage their money. Among all the advice she gave, one stuck to mind. I don’t remember the exact words but it was a response to a lady’s problem who was recently divorced and supporting 3 children alone. This lady had to sell her house and they survived day after day by scraping whatever cash this lady could.
So Suze said to first, live within what they could afford and the second priceless advice was – “to be honest to yourself, do not lie to your children, do not cover the fact that life is hard at the moment. Let them see the hardship, let them learn from you as to how you manage to overcome it. You have to show them so they are aware and will know what to do if the same thing happens to them, or learn to not let the same thing happen to them. Do not pretend that things are okay when in fact you are not.”
** Thats a long one coming from Yours Truly who claimed she cant remember a thing! he he
Suze Orman was right. Some of us when we’re in trouble or misery, we bottle it up. We feel that by pouring our woes is perceived by others as attention seeking or being a sissy. Or in some cases, a matter of not being able to articulate well to The Listeners what our problems are. Yet, there are so many ways of making them known. Well, I know only a few. One being blogging with a password protected entry fully granted access for kind-hearted selected individuals and the second maybe over for example, a Subway sandwich once the ‘motherly-caring-bestbuddy’ figure sits across you and asks “Whats the matter?”
It’s somewhat educational. People get to learn from you and under some lucky circumstances they on the other hand offer additional advice or feedback onto how you handled a particular thing. If through a blog, readers can find out how you overcome depression,
how you massacred traitors, what food is good to lose weight etc.
Strength does not lie in how tall or thick the ‘wall’ is to keep people out and maintain a stiff upper lip. Strength sometimes comes in asking other people for help.