:: Shenta itu pelbagai March 29, 2008Posted by Minci 先生 in Love and Relationship.
If I ever hear this again, I suppose I’ll have to fake another cardiac-arresting-sickly- sweet-smile as a gesture of respect towards his/her opinion. I’d probably let out a short ‘uhuhmm’ – not to scoff but more of to demonstrate a response that is neither agreeing nor disagreeing. Jet call it my ‘nervous laugh’ and so far, she has been able to recognize it quite well. I tak neves pun dia ingat I neveslah tapi. Heard this idea been expressed out loud and strongly over the radio a couple of times and I find that these individuals are those who;
have been disappointed in a previous love relationship
has reached a state of desperation and decides to marry whoever that crosses their path and claim the spouse as ‘the one’
okaylah.. alhamdulilah.. pious ( I understand where your argument comes from)
hmm.. ada lagi ker?
I just feel that it has a wrong message to it. It’s as though saying that for those who have bershenta before marriage, the love would stop after tying the knot. Considering the poor statistics of sustained strong marriages in our country, it doesnt help to have people publicising this sort of idea at large. and my friends, once you’re married..try to keep talak at the very back of your head. do not think of it as an option at all just because you’ve had that one disastrous fight. Give it a Posh Beckham stride please. But of course, if you’ve tried and still feel like slashing each others throat, then by all means…
Ok.. dah merapu. back to the phrase. Isnt it better (for a neutral touch) to say,
“Bercinta selepas kahwin pun tidak kurang hebatnya”
There is however something I’d like to mention about the few irritation religious lot. I couldnt emphasize that few enough for I dont really want people to think I’m an extreme hedonist and memperkecilkan agama sort of person.
Once, I was in a YM conversation with a friend of mine, who I’d categorize as a well-informed guy on religious matters. He was asking about our former friends bla bla bla and so it was natural to update on who’s been coupling and so on. To my annoyance however he kept enquiring as to why these people are not married and blatantly say haram (aloha.. this couple always have a 3rd person with them).. ‘this people should better for they were both naqib and naqibah..’ yada yada yada.. further adding.. ‘you were also a naqibah, why dint you advice them?’ sort of thing.. ayooooo.. please lah dont bring up the subject of me being a former naqibah.. for I have sinned and done things that Im unproud of. So duh… drop it!!!! (Why do u think I’m doin medicine anyway? To repent, to redeem myself in one way or another.. lol.. muaahahahahaha..I’m warped in too many self-conflict)
Great. So now its my fault? Bluekkk.. I was obviously furious. Well.. I am short.. my blood as Julie Dahlan would say, ‘goes upstairs’ really quick.. whadya expect?
In my head, I had all this argument circulating. Gosh.. did he think that all parents are like his and her wife’s parents who thinks it is okay to get married during studies? I knowlah he bershenta long-distance but alohaaa.. these alim friends of mine taulah nak jaga diri sendiri. haiyooo.. give them a bit of credit lah..
I don’t remember how the conversation ended but oh well.. he’s not in my YM list anymore. Emo kan I nih? miahhahahaha~~ You piss me, I diss you.