:: Langkah bendul February 15, 2009Posted by Minci 先生 in 455176.
Finally, an engagement ceremony in my family coming soon. It could have been me but no, its my younger sister’s rezeki this year.
Newsflash : Langkah bendul
My sister is already asking me what I want. And me being the sweetest sis on Earth told her that she can give me anything she wants, as long as its affordable to her and her fiance. I told her I dont need a Chanel, a Gucci bag or a priceless diamond ring .. I just want her to use their money for better purposes in the future.
Merik pake hormat adat jak …
I once read a blog entry of how this particular lady thinks that its nonsense for the adat langkah bendul to be carried out. In my opinion, it upholds the true Malay sentiments of respecting your elder siblings and being humble. Its a formal way of apologizing that ‘ things are turning out the way they are but in return, I present you these gifts .. please accept them and wish all the happiness in my journey towards building a good marriage, wahai kakanda’.. that sort of things lah.. miahahaha.
How do I feel?
Partially happy that their love saga is heading somewhere with blessings from both families. Partially numb for not knowing how best to respond when inevitable questions like,
“kakaknya bila lagi?”
comes by. I may be a HO, a sister, a friend but above all, Im all woman underneath. The emotional sensitivity still lingers even after holding a poker-face front. The big question …